founder of naked leader
Mind the Gap
No, not the gap between platform and underground train
Rather, the Gap of Infinite Possibility – where your future, your life, what happens to you next, are totally and absolutely within your own control, and no-one else’s.
Please, just reflect on that for a moment.
Because that is all you get – a single moment.
Yes, The Gap is amazingly empowering and powerful – it is also, rather short.
Still, the good news is that, with practice, you can be conscious of it and make it a little bit longer.
The Gap – an event happens– it could be anything, somebody cuts you up, gives you negative feedback or a blunt email, even the start of rain. Then there’s a moment – The Gap, and then you react!
This is what your brain then does for you (some would say to you!):
At lightning speed you ask yourself what this event means, your subconscious gives the event a meaning ‘that guy’s an idiot’, or ‘my boss has got it in for me’, then you respond.
The Gap is the moment to be conscious of, to take a little pause, let time stand still and assess the most useful meaning before consciously deciding on the most appropriate and useful response.
It needs practice and my tip is, when the unexpected happens, to make your initial habitual reaction ‘how interesting!’ thereby persuading your brain to take a more objective view during the Gap, and then, and only then react.
And now a ‘Gap’ until next week when I give you some more about how we come up with a meaning to a situation.
With my love and best wishes
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Listen to this a few times you’ll soon get the idea!