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Use This Technique To Flip Someone’s Brain
Time to Read –72 Seconds
Naked Leader Week 1021 – 1 May 2023
If you are helping someone who says they ‘lack confidence’ ask them this question:
‘OK – How confident do you feel right now?
1 being not confident at all
10 being super confident’
They will give you a number – the most frequent responses we get in Naked Leader are ‘4’ or ‘5’
“OK – thank you – may I ask you a question?”
They will say yes
“Why didn’t you give me a lower number?”
This question is genius – as the person you are with fully expects you to ask what most people would ask – “Why didn’t you give me a higher number?” – a question that opens up a discussion about why they lack confidence.
Whereas the question “Why didn’t you give me a lower number?” opens up a discussion about why they do indeed have some confidence”
All with a switch of just one word.
Just last week someone I am coaching gave me a “3” – I asked why they hadn’t given me a lower number – they looked at me, puzzled – because it is unexpected – and replied “Well, I know deep down I can do things, and there are some days when I feel very confident and…”
It’s a powerful, healing and helpful question
And the results are amazing
With my thanks to Michael Pantalon, author of ‘Instant Influence’ and my love and best wishes to you all
PS If they reply with ‘0’ – ask them ‘What has to happen to make that a 1?’