The Switch That Changes Everything

Naked Leader Week 1176 – Tuesday 26 May 2026

Time To Read: 1 Minute 30 Seconds

The Switch That Changes Everything

Why is it, in our lives, that we make success so hard to achieve, and failure so easy? Because of our definitions of success, and failure, and because of our “rules” (or beliefs, or truths) about them, as they apply to our lives.

It simply does not have to be this way.

The table below is exactly how we as human beings think, every day. It is a faithful reproduction of any one of over a hundred Naked Leader workshops – these are real parents saying these…

Question: What do you have to do to be a success / failure as a parent?

Success	Failure
Give them love	Raise my voice
and	or
Time	Condemn their music as “noise”
and	or
Set an example	Go on about how lucky they are
and	or
Never talk down to them	Forgetting the name of any of their friends
and	or
Ensure their safety	Keeping them waiting for more than 30 seconds when I am collecting them
and	or
Always understand them	Not going to bed on time
and	or
Help them with homework	Hearing me swear
and	or
Teach them respect	Them being unhappy
and hundreds of others…	and hundreds of others…

We can change this very quickly, powerfully and in a way that will change our lives forever. How?

We switch the ‘and’ with the ‘or’

So…

Success	Failure
Give them love	Raise my voice
or	and
Time	Condemn their music as “noise”
or	and
Set an example	Go on about how lucky they are
or	and
Never talk down to them	Forgetting the name of any of their friends
or	and
Ensure their safety	Keeping them waiting for more than 30 seconds when I am collecting them
or	and
Always understand them	Not going to bed on time
or	and
Help them with homework	Hearing me swear
or	and
Teach them respect	Them being unhappy
and hundreds of others…	and hundreds of others…

From The Naked Leader book

With my love and best wishes to you

David

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